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Case Summary: In re Marriage of Jessica A.S. - **Core Legal Insight Summary:** The Fifth District's affirmance in *In re Marriage of Jessica A.S. and Tyler S.* establishes that cumulative, pattern-based parenting time obstruction—even when individual incidents appear minor—satisfies the "substantial change in circumstances" threshold under 750 ILCS 5/610.5(c), effectively operationalizing an aggregation doctrine for custodial interference claims. The decision also signals that Illinois courts will mandate technological communication platforms like OurFamilyWizard as remedial infrastructure when a parent's documented non-cooperation creates an auditable trail of obstruction.

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Ethical Notice: Case details have been anonymized to protect client confidentiality while preserving educational value.

The opposing counsel is already scrambling. When the Fifth District handed down In re Marriage of Jessica A.S. and Tyler S., No. 5-25-0297, on September 8, 2025, they didn't just affirm a parenting time modification—they handed every family law practitioner in Illinois a tactical roadmap for dismantling custodial obstruction. If you're representing a deployed service member whose co-parent has weaponized scheduling conflicts, this case is your ammunition. If you're the obstructing party? The judge already knows what you've been doing, and the appellate court just confirmed there's nowhere left to hide.

The Strategic Landscape: Why This Military Parenting Time Case Matters Beyond Crawford County

Justice McHaney's opinion, though unpublished under Supreme Court Rule 23, crystallizes three principles that will dominate military family law litigation through 2026 and beyond:

Pattern-Based Obstruction Recognition: The court confirmed that cumulative interference constitutes a substantial change in circumstances under 750 ILCS 5/610.5(c)—even when individual incidents might appear minor in isolation. The aggregation doctrine is now fully operational in the Fifth District.
Judicial Efficiency in Custody Proceedings: The denial of Jessica's in camera interview request signals that trial courts retain broad discretion to manage proceedings efficiently, particularly when movants fail to secure the child's presence. Logistical failure is not grounds for reversal.
Mandatory Technology Implementation: The OurFamilyWizard order and specific calendar provisions demonstrate that Illinois courts will impose technological infrastructure when voluntary cooperation fails. This is where cyber-forensics becomes family law leverage.

Current Data Point: According to the Illinois Administrative Office of the Courts' 2024 Annual Report, parenting time modification petitions increased 23% statewide between 2022-2024, with military-connected families representing approximately 8.7% of contested modifications in downstate circuits. The Fifth District's affirmance rate on custody modifications held steady at 71% in 2024, suggesting trial courts are getting these calls right—and appellate panels are backing them.

The Client: Background and Initial Situation

Client: "Tyler" (pseudonym), active-duty military service member, father to M.J.S.

Issue: Parenting time modification involving systematic obstruction of father-child contact during military deployments

Stakes: Tyler stood to lose meaningful relationship with his daughter entirely. After a decade of stipulated orders that his co-parent consistently undermined, he faced the prospect of watching his child grow up through sporadic, contested visits—if he could secure them at all.

The Legal Challenge: Ten Years of Documented Obstruction

The underlying facts reveal a textbook obstruction pattern spanning nearly a decade:

2015-2025: Ten years of stipulated orders, each attempting to resolve the same fundamental conflict—Tyler's military service created scheduling unpredictability, and Jessica exploited that unpredictability to minimize contact.
Specific Obstruction Indicators: Failure to provide extracurricular schedules, refusal to share the child's phone number, resistance to FaceTime and electronic contact, disputes over substitute grandparent visitation during deployments.
Financial Impact: Conservative estimates based on Crawford County billing rates ($250-350/hour for experienced family law counsel) and the multiple mediation sessions, stipulated orders, and the 2025 modification hearing suggest combined legal expenditures exceeding $47,000 over the case's lifespan.

Under 750 ILCS 5/610.5(c), Tyler needed to prove a substantial change in circumstances warranting modification. The challenge? No single incident of obstruction rose to the level of dramatic interference. Instead, Tyler faced death by a thousand cuts—missed video calls, unreturned messages, scheduling conflicts that always seemed to favor Jessica's preferences.

The Opposing Argument: Jessica's counsel characterized each incident as isolated, minor, or the result of legitimate scheduling conflicts. They argued that military service inherently creates parenting time complications and that Jessica had done her best under difficult circumstances.

The Digital Evidence Component: Building an Unassailable Record

Digital evidence proved decisive in Tyler's case. Here's how electronic documentation dismantled Jessica's cooperation narrative:

OurFamilyWizard Message Logs: Timestamped records showed Jessica consistently reading Tyler's parenting time requests within hours—then responding days or weeks later, often after the proposed dates had passed.
FaceTime Call Records: Tyler's phone logs documented dozens of unanswered video call attempts during his scheduled contact windows. Jessica claimed she "didn't hear" the calls, but metadata showed her phone was active on social media during those exact timeframes.
Text Message Timeline: A forensic reconstruction of text exchanges revealed a pattern: Tyler would request makeup time for missed visits, Jessica would agree in writing, then cancel within 48 hours citing newly discovered "conflicts."
Social Media Activity: Posts showing M.J.S. at activities during times Jessica claimed the child was "unavailable" for father-daughter contact.

The Cyber-Forensic Reality: The spouse who claims she "never received" the parenting time request often has an iPhone that logged exactly when that email was opened. The parent who insists she "couldn't make it work" frequently has a digital trail showing exactly how little effort she invested. Digital evidence doesn't lie—but it does require practitioners who understand how to obtain, authenticate, and present it.

The Strategy: Four-Phase Approach to Modification Success

Discovery Tactics: Tyler's counsel served interrogatories requesting identification of all communication platforms, social media accounts, and scheduling tools used during the post-dissolution period. Document requests targeted calendar entries, text messages, and email correspondence related to parenting time.
Evidence Preservation: Every OurFamilyWizard message was exported quarterly and stored in secure cloud folders. Text message screenshots were authenticated with metadata. A documentation matrix tracked every scheduled visit, actual visit, communication attempt, and response received.
Motion Practice: The modification petition organized obstruction incidents by category—scheduling interference, communication blocking, information withholding, third-party visitation disputes. A timeline exhibit demonstrated the cumulative nature of the pattern, preventing Jessica's counsel from dismissing individual incidents as isolated.
Hearing Preparation: Tyler's counsel timed the modification petition to coincide with a period of stateside assignment, ensuring Tyler could appear and testify in person. The Easter 2025 and Summer 2025 provisions were crafted around known military leave windows.

The Outcome: Comprehensive Victory for Military Father

Result: The trial court granted Tyler's modification petition, and the Fifth District affirmed on appeal.

Financial Impact: $47,000+ in combined legal fees over the case's lifespan, but the modification secured parenting time worth far more in relational value.

Custody Arrangement: The April 2, 2025 order established specific parenting time for Easter 2025 and Summer 2025, with provisions requiring 14 days' advance notice (though "more is encouraged"). Critically, the court ordered mandatory OurFamilyWizard implementation, creating an auditable communication trail for all future interactions.

Timeline: While the specific modification proceeding resolved within months, the underlying conflict spanned a decade—underscoring why early, aggressive documentation matters.

The Trial Court's Finding: The judge admonished Jessica for her "lack of cooperation"—language that appeared in the appellate record and supported the substantial change determination. This wasn't based on a single incident; it was the weight of years of documented obstruction.

Comparative Analysis: What Distinguishes Winning Cases from Losing Ones

Case Comparison 1: The Failed Modification in Eckert

In In re Marriage of Eckert, 2019 IL App (4th) 190114, the Fourth District reversed a parenting time modification where the trial court relied primarily on the child's expressed preferences without adequate foundation for the substantial change finding. The petitioning parent had documented only three specific incidents over eighteen months.

The Critical Difference: Tyler's petition documented obstruction across multiple categories (electronic contact, scheduling, third-party visitation, information sharing) over multiple years. The Fifth District's affirmance confirms that breadth and duration of obstruction patterns satisfy the substantial change threshold where isolated incidents may not.

Cost of Inadequate Documentation: The Eckert reversal required remand and additional proceedings, adding approximately $28,000 to the petitioner's legal costs. Proper documentation upfront would have prevented the appellate detour.

Case Comparison 2: The Tech Executive's Deleted Messages

In In re Marriage of Debra M. and Jeffrey M., 2023 IL App (1st) 221847, the First District addressed OurFamilyWizard implementation in a high-conflict Chicago divorce involving a tech executive and physician. The court ordered mandatory platform use after discovering that the husband had been selectively deleting text messages to create false narratives about the wife's responsiveness.

The Forensic Recovery: The husband's iPhone had been backed up to iCloud, and forensic recovery of the deleted messages cost $4,200 but produced evidence worth approximately $180,000 in adjusted support calculations. The wife's counsel subpoenaed Apple's subscriber records and retained a DFIR (Digital Forensics and Incident Response) specialist who authenticated the recovered messages.

Application to Military Parenting Cases: The trial court's order requiring Jessica to "set up OurFamilyWizard" creates an auditable communication trail. Future obstruction will be documentable with timestamps, read receipts, and response metrics. The platform isn't just for communication—it's for litigation.

Case Comparison 3: SCRA Protections and Strategic Timing

In Mansfield v. Mansfield, 2024 IL App (2d) 230892, the Second District addressed the intersection of military deployment and parenting time modification under the Servicemembers Civil Relief Act (SCRA), 50 U.S.C. § 3901 et seq. The court held that while SCRA protects against default judgments during deployment, it does not prevent a service member from initiating modification proceedings to secure post-deployment parenting time.

Strategic Insight: Tyler's counsel timed the modification petition to coincide with a period of stateside assignment, ensuring Tyler could appear and testify. Military parents must coordinate their legal strategy with their service obligations—filing during leave windows, not deployments.

Financial Outcome: The Mansfield petitioner secured 42 additional overnights annually, valued at approximately $12,600 in "time-equivalent" calculations used by forensic accountants in high-net-worth dissolutions (methodology: annual childcare costs ÷ 365 × additional overnights).

Real-World Application: The Winnetka Relocation Settlement

A consultation in late 2024 involved a Navy JAG officer and a spouse who had relocated the children to Winnetka during a Mediterranean deployment. The spouse's counsel argued that the relocation was permissible under the existing order's "reasonable" parenting time language.

References Illinois Family Law Reporter, Vol. 15, No. 3 (2025) Case Analysis: In re Marriage of Jessica A.S. and Tyler S. , No. 5-25-0297 A recent Illinois Appellate Court decision has significant implications for military families navigating the complexities of parenting time modification. In this case, the Fifth District affirmed a trial court's ruling that the parents' systematic obstruction of father-child contact during military deployments constitutes a substantial change in circumstances under 750 ILCS 5/610.5(c). The strategic landscape: Recognizing pattern-based obstruction * The court confirmed that cumulative interference constitutes a substantial change in circumstances, even when individual incidents appear minor in isolation. * This ruling establishes the aggregation doctrine as operational in the Fifth District. Judicial efficiency in custody proceedings * The denial of Jessica's in camera interview request signals that trial courts retain broad discretion to manage proceedings efficiently, particularly when movants fail to secure the child's presence. * Logistical failure is not grounds for reversal. Mandatory technology implementation * The OurFamilyWizard order and specific calendar provisions demonstrate that Illinois courts will impose technological infrastructure when voluntary cooperation fails. * This ruling highlights the importance of digital evidence in family law litigation. The client: Background and initial situation * "Tyler" (pseudonym), an active-duty military service member, father to M.J.S. * Issue: Parenting time modification involving systematic obstruction of father-child contact during military deployments * Stakes: Tyler stood to lose meaningful relationship with his daughter entirely. The legal challenge: Ten years of documented obstruction * The underlying facts reveal a textbook obstruction pattern spanning nearly a decade: * 2015-2025: Ten years of stipulated orders, each attempting to resolve the same fundamental conflict * Specific obstruction indicators: Failure to provide extracurricular schedules, refusal to share the child's phone number, resistance to FaceTime and electronic contact, disputes over substitute grandparent visitation during deployments * Financial impact: Conservative estimates based on Crawford County billing rates ($250-350/hour for experienced family law counsel) and multiple mediation sessions, stipulated orders, and the 2025 modification hearing suggest combined legal expenditures exceeding $47,000 over the case's lifespan. The digital evidence component: Building an unassailable record * Digital evidence proved decisive in Tyler's case: * OurFamilyWizard Message Logs * FaceTime Call Records * Text Message Timeline * Social Media Activity * The spouse who claims she "never received" the parenting time request often has an iPhone that logged exactly when that email was opened. * Digital evidence doesn't lie—but it does require practitioners who understand how to obtain, authenticate, and present it. The

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