Divorce is a difficult journey for the whole family. Telling your children about an impending separation may be one of the toughest conversations you’ll ever have. You might worry about hurting them or wonder how the news will impact their future. The good news, supported by research, is that while divorce is painful, it does not inevitably ruin children’s lives. In fact, studies show most children cope successfully in the long run, especially when parents handle the situation with love, honesty, and low conflict. What matters most is how you approach the divorce: open communication, reassurance, and stability can foster remarkable resilience in kids.
This guide blends insights from psychological experts and seasoned divorce lawyers to help you navigate these conversations. We’ll cover how divorce impacts children at different ages, step-by-step strategies for talking about it, legal considerations like custody and parental rights, common mistakes to avoid, and ways to provide reassurance and stability. With empathy, clarity, and the right approach, you can help your children feel loved and secure even as your family changes.
How Divorce Impacts Children: Insights from Research Divorce is almost always stressful for children, but it’s not an “irreversible” trauma in most cases. Psychological research finds that most children adjust well within a year or two of their parents’ separation, and they do not suffer lasting problems in mental health or school performance simply because of the divorce. What’s most notable is children’s resilience – with time and support, the vast majority learn to cope and continue to develop normally. In fact, staying in a high-conflict, unhappy marriage can be more harmful to kids than a well-handled divorce. Children often experience more difficulties when they are exposed to constant parental fighting than when parents split up to reduce conflict.
None of this means divorce is easy on kids. All children will feel some combination of shock, sadness, anxiety, anger, or guilt when they learn their family is changing. Divorce is a major life change, and even in the best scenarios it is painful for children and parents alike. Kids may worry about very practical things: Where will I live? Who will take care of me? Do mom or dad still love me?
Many children – especially younger ones – blame themselves for their parents’ break-up, even if they don’t say so out loud. They might think, “Was this my fault? If I had behaved better, would they stay together?” It’s critical to address these fears and misconceptions through caring communication (more on that below).
Another important insight is that children’s understanding of divorce depends on their age and developmental stage. A preschooler’s reaction will differ from a teenager’s. Tailoring your approach to their maturity level greatly helps them cope. We’ll delve into age-appropriate strategies shortly, but keep in mind that one conversation won’t be the end of it. Kids’ questions and feelings will evolve over time as reality settles in. Make it clear that they can always come back to you with worries or new questions, whether it’s next week or a year from now.
Finally, remember that healing takes time. Research suggests it takes at least a year or two for parents and children to establish a “new normal” after a divorce. The transition period can be challenging, requiring hard work from both adults and kids to adjust. But the effort pays off – for most families, divorce becomes a manageable memory and life moves forward. By handling the process with care, you can ensure your child’s story is one of adaptation and growth, not irreversible harm.
General Guidelines for Discussing Divorce with Your Child Every family is different, but these general principles are widely recommended by psychologists and family counselors for talking about divorce:
Plan the conversation and, if possible, talk to the kids together. If you and your co-parent can be in the same room to break the news calmly, it provides a sense of security. Agree on what you will say ahead of time so that your message is consistent. Think through how you’ll explain the situation in simple terms – you might even practice or role-play with a friend to feel more prepared Keep the explanation clear, simple, and honest. Use language your children can understand at their age level. You don’t need to go into adult-only details (in fact, you shouldn’t), but you do need to tell the truth about what’s happening. Children are perceptive – if you hide the fact that you’re divorcing or try to sugarcoat too much, they may become more confused or fearful Emphasize that it’s not their fault. Most kids will internally wonder if they are to blame for the split Avoid blame and negative talk about the other parent. No matter how angry or hurt you may feel toward your ex-partner, do not dump those feelings on the kids. Speaking badly about the other parent (even subtly, or even if you think the child “should know” the other’s wrongdoing) only causes confusion and distress for the child Use a calm and reassuring tone. Children take emotional cues from you. If you are very upset, yelling, or crying uncontrollably during the talk, your child is likely to feel more scared. It’s okay to show sadness – this is a sad time – but try to stay composed. Present the news in a steady, loving manner, emphasizing that although some things will change, your child will be safe and cared for. If you need to vent your anger or grief, do it away from the kids (with a friend, therapist, or support group) Invite questions and be open to conversations. Children often have many questions, some of which they may be afraid to ask immediately Reassure safety and stability. One of the first things kids of all ages worry about is, “What will happen to me now?” Keep the kids out of adult conflicts. From this point forward, commit with your co-parent that disputes stay between the adults. Don’t argue or discuss legal matters in front of the children. Never make your child a messenger or “go-between” to convey messages or ask the other parent questions Above all, convey love and support. Every few sentences, circle back to messages of love: “We both love you, and that will never change. You are the most important person in our lives.” Make sure your child knows this outcome is about Mom and Dad’s relationship, not about any lack of love for the child
These guidelines set the stage. Next, we’ll look at how to tailor the conversation to your child’s developmental stage – because a preschooler and a teenager need very different explanations. Remember, divorced families are still families; with good communication, you can start redefining your family in a healthy way from this first talk onward.
Explaining Divorce to Children at Different Ages Children’s needs and comprehension vary greatly by age. Here’s a breakdown of how to approach the conversation at different developmental stages, with practical tips for each. Adjust the wording to fit your child’s maturity, but keep the core messages (love, not their fault, and what will happen next) consistent throughout.
Preschool Children (Approx. Ages 3–5) What they understand: Preschoolers are intuitive but not logical about divorce. They won’t grasp the complex reasons behind it – nor do they need to. What they will notice is concrete changes: one parent moving out, new routines, possibly new homes. Young kids are very focused on routine and security, and disruptions can be scary. They may think in very simple terms, even magical thinking (e.g. “If I wish hard enough, maybe Mommy and Daddy will get back together”). They are also prone to self-blame, believing their own naughty behavior or wishes caused a parent to leave.
How to talk to them: Use simple, concrete terms and keep the conversation brief but warm. You might say something like: “Mom and Dad are going to live in different houses so we don’t fight so much. You will spend time with each of us, and we will both take care of you. We both love you so much, and that will never change.”
This kind of statement focuses on what the child can understand (two homes, still seeing both parents) and skips complicated details. Be prepared to repeat key points often – little ones may ask the same questions over and over as they process the change.
Key points to convey for this age:
Reassure safety and care: Explain who will be with them and where. For example, “You’ll stay with Mommy during the week and Daddy on weekends” (or whatever your arrangement is). Emphasize that someone will always be there to take care of them (young kids’ biggest fear is being left alone or abandoned) Use clear, gentle language: Avoid abstract terms or legal words. Instead of “custody” or “divorce decree,” say “living in different houses” and “not married anymore.” Instead of “We’re separating,” say “we won’t live together.” The focus is on what will happen in their daily life (who will make breakfast, who will tuck them in) rather than why the marriage is ending. Reiterate love and lack of blame: Even if you said it before, say it again: “Mom and Dad both love you and nothing will ever change that. You did absolutely nothing wrong – this is a grown-up decision.” Maintain routines and provide extra comfort: Try to keep their day-to-day schedule (meal times, bedtime, favorite activities) as consistent as possible during and after the transition Use play or stories to help them express feelings: Young children can’t always articulate their emotions verbally. You might read age-appropriate children’s books about divorce or play with dolls/action figures to act out “mommy and daddy live in two houses” scenarios. This can gently show them they’re not the only ones with this situation and encourage them to share feelings indirectly. Drawing pictures is another great outlet. The goal is to help them express fear or sadness (through play, art, simple words) and for you to validate it (“It’s okay to feel sad or mad – I feel that way too sometimes, and we’re still going to be okay.”).
Example: You sit down with your 4-year-old with their favorite stuffed animals. You calmly say, “I have something important to tell you. Mommy and Daddy have decided we will live in different houses because we’re not happy living together in one house. This is a big change, I know. But here’s what will stay the same: You will still go to preschool, and Grandma will pick you up on the days she does now. You will have a cozy bedroom at Mommy’s house and another at Daddy’s house, with your toys in both places. We will take turns taking care of you, and we will both see you every week. We both love you so much, and that will never ever change. Do you have any questions, honey?” Your child might ask if you will still all have Saturday pancakes or who will take him to swim class – answer those concrete questions. He might not ask “why” at this age, but if he does, a simple “Mom and Dad fight too much and we decided we can be happier in different homes” is enough. Throughout, speak slowly, hug them, and use a soft tone. Let them know it’s okay to feel upset. You may need to revisit this talk many times in the coming weeks, and that’s normal.
Early Primary School Children (Approx. Ages 6–8) What they understand: Early elementary kids have a slightly better grasp of cause and effect, but their thinking is still quite concrete. By this age, they likely know what divorce means in a basic sense (especially if they know friends with divorced parents). However, they are still primarily concerned with how it affects them. Children around 6–8 will want to know practical details: Where will I live? Will I have to move or change schools? Will I still see each of you? They may also start to ponder the “why” of the divorce a bit more than younger kids. They might worry if love in a family can disappear, could they somehow stop loving them – so it’s vital to reassure your love. They often still harbor fantasies that their parents might reconcile, or they might attempt “good behavior” as a bargaining chip (“If I promise to be good, will you get back together?”). Guilt is still common; they may secretly believe misbehaving or not doing well in school caused stress that led to the divorce.
How to talk to them: School-age kids need clear information and space to ask questions. At this stage, you can give a slightly more expanded explanation of why the divorce is happening (without blaming either parent). For example: “We have tried really hard to fix our problems, but we can’t, so this is a grown-up decision that we will be happier living apart.” They will also need to hear the practical plan for custody in straightforward terms: “You’ll spend weekdays with Mom and weekends with Dad,” or whatever you have agreed on. Encourage them to voice any concern. Be honest in your answers, but keep it kid-focused – they don’t need every detail about adult disagreements. If they ask for more detail than you’re comfortable sharing, you can say something like “There are some grown-up reasons that are private, but what’s important for you to know is that we couldn’t stay married. Even though we’re not husband and wife now, we’ll always be your Mom and Dad.”
Key points for this age:
Address the “why” briefly, then focus on reassurance: Children in early primary grades will likely ask “Why are you divorcing?” A suitable answer could be: “We don’t get along as husband and wife the way we should, so we decided this is the best thing. It’s a hard decision, but it’s about problems between me and Dad – not about anything you did.” Focus on logistics and concrete assurances: Let them know where each parent will live and where the child will live. If you know the custody schedule, spell it out simply (maybe even make a visual calendar for them). For example, “You’ll be with Mom Monday through Thursday, and with Dad Friday through Sunday. We’ll switch off on weekends.” If you don’t have exact schedules yet, be honest that it’s still being figured out, but give an interim plan if possible (e.g., “For now, you’ll stay in this house with Mom, and you’ll see Dad on these days... we’ll let you know as soon as the schedule is final” Encourage them to share feelings and questions: Let your child know their feelings matter. Kids 6–8 might not be as openly tearful as younger ones; some try to be “brave” or worry about upsetting you with their feelings. Actively check in: “It’s okay to feel sad or mad. How are you feeling?” Normalize their emotions (e.g., “Lots of kids feel upset or confused when their parents divorce. It’s completely normal to feel that way.”). Make sure they know they can ask anything, even if it’s weeks later. Early in the process, they might ask practical things first, and emotional questions later. Be patient and keep the dialogue going. One expert recommendation is to give children repeated opportunities over time to ask questions and express worries Gently dispel reunification fantasies: Many kids this age hold out hope that “maybe Mom and Dad will get back together.” It’s important not to give false hope. If your child asks, “Will you ever live together again?”, a kind but firm answer is: “No, we won’t. We know it’s hard to hear that. But we won’t be a couple again. What we will do is always work together as your parents to take care of you.” Help them talk to others if needed: School-age children may wonder what to tell their friends or teachers. They might feel embarrassed that their family is changing. Work with them on a simple way to explain it to peers, if they want to. For instance, “You can tell your friends that Mom and Dad are divorced which means we live in two different houses, and you spend time with each of us. A lot of families do this.” Knowing it’s not a shameful secret can relieve some of their anxiety. Let their teacher or school counselor know about the divorce as well (most schools have seen many children through divorces and can offer support or just keep an eye on your child’s mood at school).
Example: You sit down with your 7-year-old at the kitchen table. You say, “I have something important to talk about. You know how sometimes Mom and I have been arguing, and things have been tense? We’ve decided that we can’t stay married to each other. We are going to live in separate houses so that we don’t fight so much and so we can both be happier. This was a very grown-up decision and it’s not because of anything you did. We both love you very much. That love will never change.” She looks surprised and a little worried. You continue, “I know this is a big change. I want to tell you what it means for you. You and Mom will stay here in the apartment, and I’m going to move to a new apartment nearby. You’ll still go to the same school and have the same teacher. You’ll spend weekdays with Mom, and on Fridays after school you’ll come to my place and spend the weekends with me. Then Mom will pick you up Monday morning for school. We’ll keep doing soccer on Saturdays like we always do, and Mom will take you to dance class just like before. Does that make sense?” She might ask, “Why can’t you stay married?” You respond, “Mom and I tried to work out our problems, but we couldn’t. Sometimes adults can’t fix their problems together, and living apart is healthier for us. It’s nobody’s fault. The important thing for you to know is we will both always be your parents.” She then asks, “Where will my cat stay?” You explain the plan for pets. She asks, “Are you going to get back together later?” and you gently say, “No, we won’t. I know that’s sad, but we made a final decision. Even though we won’t be married, we will both always be here for you and take care of you.” Finally, you ask if she has any more questions now and encourage her that anytime she wants to talk or is feeling upset, she can come to either of you. You hug her and tell her again how much you love her.*
Late Primary and Preteens (Approx. Ages 9–12) What they understand: By upper elementary (around 9–12 years old), kids have a more developed ability to understand cause and effect and can handle somewhat more complex explanations. They often want to know more details about why the divorce is happening. They might recall conflicts they’ve witnessed and start to piece together a narrative (e.g., “Dad was always at work” or “I heard them fighting about money”). It’s common for kids this age to also feel anger or assign blame. For example, a 10-year-old might secretly (or openly) blame one parent for “breaking up the family,” especially if they perceive an obvious wrongdoing (like an affair or a parent who moved out). They may feel betrayed or lied to if they weren’t aware of problems beforehand. At the same time, like younger kids, they worry about practical aspects: living arrangements, school, friends. Preteens may also worry about the future, like “What about holidays? What about my birthday – will we all still do it together?” Socially, they might dread having to tell friends or fear being seen as “different.” Some may feel relief if there was a lot of household tension, but then feel guilty for feeling relief. In short, their emotions can be complex and sometimes contradictory. Importantly, they are still children, not mini-adults – even if they act more mature, they’re not equipped to handle adult burdens or decision-making about the divorce.
How to talk to them: Honesty and open dialogue are crucial with this age group, while still maintaining boundaries. You can be a bit more forthcoming about the reasons for the divorce, but be careful not to overshare or put them in the position of your confidant. For instance, it is appropriate to say, “We’ve grown apart and have had problems for a long time, and we decided it would be healthier for us not to be married,” or “We tried counseling, but it didn’t work and we were unhappy together.” It is not appropriate to unload all the gritty details (e.g., “Your dad had an affair,” “Your mom has a drinking problem,” etc.), even if those are true. Those kinds of details can damage a child’s relationship with a parent and create anxiety or loyalty conflicts. As one expert puts it, teens and older kids should get an honest explanation of why their parents split, but not every detail of the marriage – parents must remember “they are children, not friends”. So share enough for them to grasp the basic cause (so they don’t invent worse scenarios in their head) but filter out the uglier specifics.
At this age, kids might come back with tough or pointed questions. Be prepared for questions like “Did one of you do something bad?”, “Are you ever going to talk to each other again?”, or even “Is one of you in love with someone else?” Some questions you can answer directly (“We will always talk to each other when it’s about taking care of you, but we won’t be close friends”). For trickier questions like infidelity or other adult problems, think about a truthful but measured response. For example, if a child asks if someone cheated, and that is the case, a possible answer is: “There were problems in our marriage and one of us developed feelings for someone else. That hurt our marriage a lot. But the main thing you need to know is that our decision to divorce was about our issues as a couple. We both love you and that will not change.” This acknowledges the truth generally without giving details that can traumatize the child or force them to take sides. Gauge how much your child really wants to know; some preteens might press for specifics, while others actually don’t want to know too much.
Key points for this age:
Be honest and clear about the reason, but avoid “blame storytelling”: Preteens value honesty and may feel respect when you level with them. If you give a vague reason, they might push back (“That’s it? There must be more.”). So give a concrete reason that makes sense. It could be about constant fighting, fundamental differences, or “we tried but couldn’t fix things.” You might say, “Over the years, we started hurting each other’s feelings a lot and not being good partners. We finally realized we wouldn’t be able to be happy together, even though we tried.” If one parent really wants the divorce and the other doesn’t, don’t lay that on the child (“Dad wants this, I don’t”) – present it as a joint decision for their sake. Keep the focus on the fact that this is what’s best for the family moving forward, rather than on who did what in the past. Avoid ranting about the other parent’s mistakes. Even if the child is angry at one parent, do not fuel that anger; instead, acknowledge their feelings (“I understand you’re angry, and it’s okay to feel that way”), but reinforce that the divorce is ultimately about making things better, not punishing anyone. Involve them in discussions about their routine (to a reasonable degree): By 10 or 12, children often appreciate having some say in practical arrangements. After you explain the planned custody schedule, ask if they have any concerns about it. For instance, a 12-year-old might say they really want to continue playing on their soccer team and worry if the schedule will affect that. If adjustments can be made to accommodate important parts of their life, consider them (in coordination with your co-parent). While the big decisions remain with the adults, listening to their preferences (like if they want to spend a bit more time at one parent’s house because it’s closer to their best friend, etc.) can help them feel respected and reduce anxiety. Just be clear that they are not being asked to choose one parent over the other – stress that you are asking for input, not making them decide the outcome (because that can be an unfair burden). For example: “We’re thinking you’ll be at Dad’s house every other week in the summer. How do you feel about that? Is there anything you’re worried about with that schedule?” This invites dialogue. Some courts even consider the wishes of children around this age in custody decisions (though it’s not ultimately the child’s choice). Letting them voice their thoughts can make the transition smoother. Discuss what will change and what will stay the same: Just like with younger kids, lay out the logistics (living arrangements, school, etc.). Older kids may have more aspects to consider: “Will I still go to the same summer camp? Where will I spend Thanksgiving? Can I still have my birthday party at home?” Answer specifically if you can: e.g., “We’ve decided we’ll alternate holidays – this Thanksgiving with Mom, Christmas with Dad, then switch next year. But we’ll make sure you get to see both of us for each holiday in some way.” Let them know the plan for things like birthdays (maybe both parents will attend, if you’re able to be civil, or you’ll do two separate celebrations – whichever is the arrangement, tell them so they know). Consistency and predictability help preteens feel secure, so stick to the schedule and agreements as much as possible once they’re set. Sudden changes or broken promises can breed resentment or anxiety. Acknowledge their feelings and allow space for anger or sadness: Older kids might not immediately show distress, or they might show it as anger (“This is so stupid! How could you do this?!”). Stay calm and acknowledge the emotion: “I know this feels awful for you. I’m sorry that it’s so hard. I know you might be mad at us, and that’s okay. I hope in time you’ll understand we’re trying to do what’s best.” Avoid retaliating if they direct anger at you – they’re dealing with a lot. Let them know any feeling – sadness, anger, confusion, even relief – is okay and normal. Continue to reassure them that their wellbeing is your top priority. Also, keep parenting as normally as possible: it’s important they know the rules and expectations remain (as the AAP notes, even during divorce, parents should maintain normal expectations for behavior Respect their growing autonomy and friendships: Preteens have their own social world. Reassure them that you’ll do your best not to disrupt things like their extracurricular activities or time with friends. For example, if moving to a new house, try to keep them in the same school if feasible. If the custody schedule means they’ll be away from friends on certain weekends, find ways to still allow friend hangouts or team practices. This shows you understand their life is important, not just the parental situation. Provide outlets and support: Encourage them to talk to other supportive adults too, if they want – maybe a favorite aunt, a school counselor, or a therapist. Sometimes preteens open up about worries in a confidential setting more easily than to a parent. Don’t take it personally if they seek support elsewhere; the goal is simply to ensure they have a healthy outlet. Some communities have support groups for children of divorce, which at this age could be helpful so they see they’re not alone. Keep an eye on behavior changes – increased aggression, withdrawal, drop in grades can be signs they’re not coping well
Example: You and your 11-year-old son sit down after dinner. You say, “I want to talk with you about something important. You know that your dad and I have been having a lot of arguments and not getting along for a while now. We’ve decided that we are going to get divorced – that means we won’t be married or living together anymore.” He frowns and goes quiet. You continue, “We tried many things to fix our problems – we even went to counseling – but in the end, we believe this is the best decision. We weren’t happy together, and it was making our home tense. This is a grown-up problem between me and Dad. I need you to know very clearly: it’s not because of you. You and your sister are the best things in our lives, and we both love you more than anything. That will never change.” He looks down and asks, “So what’s going to happen? Who am I going to live with?” You explain, “The plan is that you’ll stay in our current house with me during the school weeks. You’ll go to Dad’s new apartment on alternate weekends and for dinner every Wednesday. We’ll make sure you have your own space at Dad’s place too. We’re also working out holidays – likely you’ll spend some with each of us. We have it almost figured out and we’ll give you the calendar so you can see.” He starts crying and angrily says, “I don’t want to do two houses! Why can’t you just stay married? This is so dumb.” Instead of reacting to the tone, you validate: “I know, this is really hard. I wish I could make it easier. I’m sorry that it hurts.” He asks, “Whose idea was this? Did Dad do something?” This is tricky, as perhaps you initiated the divorce due to Dad’s issues, but you reply, “It was a mutual decision. We both realized we couldn’t fix our marriage. No one did just one thing – there were many problems.” He seems to suspect more, but you stick to, “The important thing is we won’t be together as a couple, but we will both always be here for you. Any time you want to talk about it, or even if you just want to yell at us for a while, that’s okay. It’s also okay if you want to talk to Mrs. Smith (school counselor) or Uncle Joe if you’re more comfortable. Just know you’re not alone. We’re going to be okay as a family – a different kind of family, but still a family.” Consider also following up in a day or two with a one-on-one activity he likes (shooting hoops, a milkshake run) where you gently check in, “How are you feeling about everything?” Sometimes kids open up more during a casual activity than the formal “announcement” talk.*
Teenagers (Ages 13–18) What they understand: Teenagers are capable of understanding divorce almost at an adult level, but that doesn’t mean it’s easier for them emotionally. In fact, teens can be deeply shaken by their parents’ divorce even if they saw it coming. They are at a stage where they seek independence, but also rely on the family as a secure base. A divorce can make them question the stability of that base. They might worry about practical issues, like whether it will affect their college plans or if they’ll have to relocate. They may also have strong opinions about custody (e.g., preferring to stay in the family home or spending more time with the parent they feel closer to). Teens are more likely to be aware of issues like infidelity, financial problems, or serious conflicts – they might have even overheard or observed evidence. Thus, they often crave a more adult explanation of why the divorce is happening. At the same time, too much information can burden them. It’s a delicate balance.
Teens might react with anger, cynicism, or withdrawal. Some common reactions: acting out in rebellion (as a way to cope with pain), sinking into depression or anxiety, or attempting to stay “above it all” and pretending they don’t care. They might also worry about their own future relationships (“If my parents’ marriage failed, what does that mean for love in general?”). However, many teens also handle divorce with maturity if given the chance – they might step up to help younger siblings, or appreciate the reduction of conflict if the marriage was very bad.
One crucial thing: even though a teenager might seem almost grown-up, they are still your child and need your parental support and guidance. Don’t make the mistake of treating them like your therapist or ally against the other parent. They shouldn’t feel responsible for your emotional well-being – they have enough to handle with their own.
How to talk to them: Approach teens in a straightforward, respectful manner, almost like you would an adult, but with the parental care they still require. They will resent being talked down to or given a phony spin. Level with them about the reasons for the divorce more frankly than you would with a younger child, but still avoid maligning the other parent even if the teen is aware of that parent’s faults. It’s okay to acknowledge, for instance, that there was an affair or an addiction issue if the teen already knows or it’s obvious, but do so without excessive judgment in front of the teen. You might say, “You know about Dad’s drinking problem. That was one issue that made it very hard for us to stay together. Among other reasons, this is part of why we have decided to divorce.” Keep the explanation measured and fact-based, rather than an emotional rant.
Teens will likely want to discuss the practical implications: Will they have to move? Can they still get to school easily from each home? Can they drive or have a car at both houses? Will there be financial changes (some teens worry about money and college funds)? It’s good to be honest if, say, there will be less money, but reassure them that you will work it out and they will be supported (for example, “We might need to tighten the budget, but we will make sure college is still in the picture – it just might mean applying for financial aid,” etc.). If the divorce will force a move, involve the teen as much as possible in planning so they feel some control (e.g., which parent to live with primarily, if there is a choice, or how their room will be set up in each home).
Key points for teens:
Provide a mature explanation and welcome their questions: Teenagers appreciate candor. Start by clearly stating that you are divorcing and (briefly) why. Something like: “Your mom and I have had problems for years, and we’ve decided we cannot continue as a married couple. We’ve grown apart and we’re both unhappy in the marriage. After a lot of thought, we believe divorce is the healthiest choice. I know you probably suspected things weren’t great, but we wanted to be sure before telling you.” They might respond with sarcasm (“Ya think? You two barely talk to each other.”) or they might become very upset. Allow them to vent or be silent, and then ask if they have any questions about the situation. They may have very direct questions and you should answer truthfully, but with discretion. Remember, they don't need every detail of your grievances Acknowledge their perspective and even enlist their input (appropriately): Teens are nearing adulthood and often demand to have a say in matters that affect them. It’s wise to involve them in discussions about, for example, living arrangements. Some families have flexibility for a teenager to choose or heavily influence which parent they live with primarily. If you can be open to their preference without taking it personally, discuss it. (Keep in mind legal custody arrangements might impose some structure, but many custody agreements for older teens can be more flexible, recognizing the teen’s own wishes and schedule.) Listen to what they hope will happen. For instance, a 16-year-old might say, “I want to stay in this house until I finish high school; I don’t care which of you stays here with me, but I don’t want to move.” While you may not be able to grant exactly that, you can take it under serious consideration and see if a solution is possible (maybe one parent keeps the house until graduation). If it’s not possible, explain why and work on an alternative together. Treating them with respect in decisions helps reduce their resentment. However, do not put the weight of decisions on them – make it clear that the final decisions are the parents’ responsibility (the teen should never feel that it’s their job to choose one parent over the other – that can be devastating guilt-wise). As one lawyer advises, getting older kids’ input is okay, but the final decisions should rest with the adults so that kids aren’t burdened by guilt or pressure Maintain expectations and support structure: It’s tempting to cut a depressed or angry teen a lot of slack (like letting chores slip or allowing behaviors you normally wouldn’t) because “they’re going through a hard time.” Certainly, be compassionate, but don’t drop all the normal rules and discipline. Teens still need structure and to know their parents are looking out for them. As the American Academy of Pediatrics notes, even during a divorce, parents of teens should maintain normal expectations for behavior and continue parenting actively Be open to their emotions – which might be strong. Teens might lash out with statements like “I’ll never forgive you for this,” or “I don’t even want to live with either of you.” They might also minimize communication, spending hours closed in their room or out with friends to avoid family talk. Give them space, but periodically check in. Even if they say “I’m fine,” make sure they know you’re available to talk anytime. It can be tricky: teens often talk on their timetable, not when a parent asks. So creating opportunities – a drive to school, cooking together, or just saying “I’m here if you ever want to vent or have questions” – and then patiently waiting can help. If a teen is extremely withdrawn or showing signs of serious depression (sleeping all day, not eating, dropping all activities), consider arranging therapy for them. Many teens benefit from a neutral person to talk to, such as a counselor, especially if they don’t want to open up to parents. Never disparage your teen for their feelings (e.g., “You need to grow up” or “Stop being dramatic”). Remember, they are processing the dissolution of the only family system they’ve known – a big deal even at 17. Validate their feelings: “I know this is painful. I’m here for you, whatever you feel.” Also, remain consistent in showing love – even if a teen pushes you away, deep down they need to know you care. A simple, “I love you, nothing will change that,” said occasionally, does sink in (even if they roll their eyes at the time). Reassure them about practical matters (money, college, etc.): Teens are capable of worrying about “adult” issues like finances. They might have heard arguments about money and now worry, for example, if there will be enough money for them to go to college or even enough for day-to-day needs. Without going into financial details, reassure them that both parents (and possibly the court, through child support) will ensure their needs are met. If college is a concern, tell them the intention is still for them to attend and you will work out the finances (they don’t need the specifics, just the assurance that you’re on top of it). If the family will have to move or downsize, discuss it honestly, enlisting their help in planning their part of the move. Demonstrate mutual respect with the co-parent: Teens are very good at detecting hypocrisy. If you preach respect but then engage in nasty fights with or about your ex, they won’t listen to what you say, only what you do. Try to model a civil relationship with your ex-partner in front of the teen. This teaches them a lot about handling conflict maturely. Even if you can’t stand each other, basic courtesy in joint situations (like school events) will be noted by your teen. It also reassures them that they don’t have to choose a side. If a teen sees you being consistently respectful despite the divorce, it sends a powerful message of stability and integrity.
Example: You call a family meeting with your 15-year-old daughter and 17-year-old son. You calmly announce, “I want to talk to you both. Your father and I have decided to divorce.” The 15-year-old starts crying softly; the 17-year-old goes stone-faced. You continue, “This probably doesn’t shock you, since you’ve seen us unhappy for a long time. We tried to make it work, but we can’t stay married. We will be living separately. I know this is big news. I want to explain what it means for each of you: Your dad is going to move into an apartment across town next month. We will share time with you based on what makes the most sense for you – we have some ideas, but we want to hear your input too. Maybe you can live here primarily and visit Dad on certain days, or if one of you wants to stay with Dad more, we can discuss that. We’ll figure out holidays and special events in a way that you both get time with each of us.” Your son interrupts angrily, “Just tell us why. I want to know the real reason.” You take a breath and say, “There’s no one simple reason. We’ve grown apart, we argue a lot, and frankly we haven’t been in love for a long time. I’ll be honest, I am the one who asked for the divorce. Your dad didn’t really want it at first. But I felt that our marriage was unhealthy for both of us and I wasn’t happy. There was also the issue that I’m sure you’re aware of – your dad’s relationship with Ms. Smith from work became more than just friendship. That hurt me a lot, and it hurt our marriage.” (Both kids knew or suspected this, so you chose to acknowledge it plainly.) “But I don’t want you two to feel like you have to take sides. This divorce is about issues between me and Dad. It’s not about you, and it doesn’t change our love for you. I am sorry for the pain it’s causing you.” Your daughter asks through tears, “Didn’t you even think about us? How could you do this now? I have college next year! What if we can’t afford it now?” You reassure her, “We absolutely thought about you, and we know this is really hard for you. We did not make the decision lightly. And don’t worry – we will figure out college. We have money put aside and we’ll also look into scholarships and financial aid. We will make sure you get to go, okay?” Meanwhile your son gets up and says, “Whatever. I don’t care. Do what you want.” and leaves the room. You let him go cool off. You comfort your daughter a bit longer, telling her it’s okay to be upset and that you’re here for her. Later that night, you knock on your son’s bedroom door and tell him you’re available if he wants to talk or has questions. He coldly says, “I’m fine.” You respond, “Alright. I just want you to know I love you. I know you’re angry. When you’re ready to talk or even yell, I’ll listen.” Over the next days and weeks, you make a point to keep him in the loop on plans (he listens quietly as you explain the proposed schedule, and you ask if it works for him). You also inform them both how things like car usage, allowance, and living arrangements will work. Bit by bit, your son asks a question or two (often late at night, knocking on your door unexpectedly). Your daughter writes in her journal a lot and talks to her best friend; you also set up a few sessions with a therapist for her, which she attends and finds helpful. Both kids gradually adjust, especially as they see that life at home is calmer without the parental fights and that each parent is still very much involved in their lives, just separately.*
Legal Considerations and Custody: A Lawyer’s Perspective In addition to the emotional aspect, divorcing parents have to navigate the legal process of separation, which includes decisions about custody, visitation, and finances. While the law might feel dry compared to the emotional storm you and your kids are experiencing, understanding a few key legal points will help you keep your children’s best interests at the center of your decision-making. It will also inform how you communicate certain things to your kids. Here are some legal considerations to keep in mind (with insights on how they relate to your child’s well-being):
“Best Interest of the Child” is the guiding principle. In virtually all jurisdictions, courts make custody and visitation decisions based on what they believe is in the best interest of the child. This means the judge (or you and your ex, if you settle out of court) will consider factors like the child’s safety, need for stability, and relationship with each parent when determining arrangements Types of custody – legal and physical: There are generally two types of custody to decide: legal custody (who makes major decisions about the child’s education, health care, religion, etc.) and physical custody (where the child lives, and when they’re with each parent) Physical custody and parenting time: Some families do a 50/50 physical custody split, where time is roughly equal. Others have a primary custodial parent and a visiting parent (e.g., one has the child during the week and the other gets weekends). There is no one-size-fits-all solution – and research doesn’t show that one arrangement is universally “best” for children Custody doesn’t have to be a battle – consider mediation or collaborative approaches: Divorces that end up in nasty court battles are hardest on kids. If at all possible, try to resolve custody and parenting plans amicably or through mediation rather than a protracted fight. Mediation involves a neutral third party helping you and your ex come to an agreement that prioritizes your child’s needs Keep kids out of legal proceedings: Along those lines, don’t involve your child in the legal process. In some cases, a judge may speak with a mature teenager to hear their custodial preference, but that should be handled delicately by the court or a guardian ad litem, not by parents pressuring the teen. Do not show your children court documents or use them as spies (“What is Mom saying about the case?”). Definitely do not ask a child to choose which parent they want to live with – that is a heavy burden that no child should bear. Even if a teen does have a preference, let them express it to a neutral evaluator or in a safe way, not as a choice between parents. Your role is to shield them from the legal stress so they can just focus on being a kid. From a legal standpoint, involving a child could backfire (judges frown on a parent who tries to manipulate a child into taking sides). From a psychological standpoint, it’s clearly harmful – it puts the child in an impossible loyalty bind Parental rights and responsibilities: It’s worth noting that, post-divorce, both parents still have rights and responsibilities toward the child (unless a parent’s rights are legally terminated, which is rare and usually due to extreme circumstances). This means you both have the right to spend time with your child and to be informed about their health, education, and welfare. It also means you each have the responsibility to care for and support the child (emotionally and financially). Sometimes, one parent can feel pushed to the margins – either by the other parent’s actions or by their own withdrawal. Strive not to let that happen. Barring safety issues, a child generally benefits from having both parents actively involved in their life Creating a parenting plan: A parenting plan is the document (or agreement) that outlines custody and visitation schedules, and often covers other agreements on raising the child (like how to handle holidays, travel, decision-making, etc.). Many courts require a proposed parenting plan. Work on this plan with the child’s needs front and center. Think about things like: maintaining their school and social life, ensuring they get time with each parent’s extended family (grandparents, etc.), how to handle special occasions, and logistical details like exchange times and locations. The more detailed and clear the plan, the less you’ll have to argue later. Once a plan is in place, explain it to your child in a positive way: e.g., “We worked out a schedule so you get to be with both Mom and Dad. Here’s how it will work…”. Emphasize that the plan is there to make sure the child’s life is as smooth as possible. Also reassure them that both parents agreed to this plan (even if it was court-ordered, frame it as a mutual agreement) and that you will both stick to it. Knowing their parents have a clear plan can reduce a child’s anxiety greatly – it replaces the unknown with a stable routine Minimize conflict in co-parenting interactions: Legally and practically, after a divorce you become co-parents in a new form. You might have very little face-to-face interaction, or you might communicate regularly about the kids – either way, it should be businesslike and courteous
In summary, understanding the legal framework – custody types, best-interest standard, the value of mediation, etc. – can help you make informed choices that benefit your child. When children see their parents handling the “legal stuff” responsibly and respectfully, it sends a reassuring message. It shows them that even though the marriage is ending, mom and dad are still working together in my interest. As the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts often emphasize, children do best when parents minimize conflict, maintain consistent routines, and cooperate on parenting after divorce. Keep that principle in mind as you navigate both the courtroom and the living room conversations.
Common Mistakes Divorcing Parents Should Avoid Even well-intentioned parents can stumble into pitfalls during a divorce. Here are some common mistakes to watch out for – and tips on how to avoid them – as you focus on your child’s well-being:
Involving Children in Adult Conflicts: This is the number one mistake to guard against. It includes fighting in front of the kids, arguing over them, using them as messengers, or asking them to take sides. Such behaviors put enormous stress on children. They feel caught in the middle and may develop guilt, anxiety, or loyalty conflicts Badmouthing the Other Parent: Speaking negatively about your ex when the kids can hear (or via snide comments you think they don’t catch) can seriously harm your child. When one parent criticizes the other, the child feels they are expected to reject or distrust that other parent – which is painful because the child naturally loves both. It leads to confusion, anxiety, and can even damage the child’s own self-esteem (after all, each parent is “half” of the child, so insulting one half can feel personal to them) Lack of Consistency and Routine: Divorce often brings logistical upheaval, but children need consistency to feel secure. A big mistake is failing to establish stable routines post-divorce – e.g., each household having totally different rules, or schedules frequently changing without warning. Sudden, major disruptions (like moving homes or schools on a whim, or a parent drastically changing work hours without a transition plan) can be very disorienting for kids Overcompensating or Spoiling due to Guilt: Divorce can trigger guilt in parents, who then try to “make it up” to the kids by loosening all rules, buying lots of gifts, or tolerating bad behavior. While extra love and attention are great, over-indulgence is not. Being too lenient or showering kids with material things can backfire. It might temporarily make a child happy, but it can lead to behavior problems and a sense of entitlement Ignoring or Minimizing the Child’s Emotions: Some parents, overwhelmed by their own stress, might overlook their child’s emotional needs. They might assume a child is “okay” if they aren’t complaining, or they might avoid talking about the divorce to “keep things normal.” This can lead to a child feeling emotionally unsupported and alone with their worries Using Children as Pawns or Messengers: This overlaps with involving them in conflict, but it’s worth emphasizing: never use your child to deliver messages, subpoenas, support checks, etc., between parents Forgetting to Take Care of Yourself: This might not seem like a “parenting” mistake, but it is. If you run yourself ragged, drown in stress, or fall into unhealthy habits, your ability to be the steady, present parent your child needs will suffer Not Adjusting Parenting as Children Grow: Divorce is not a one-time event; it’s a change in life that will evolve as your children get older. A mistake is to set a “status quo” after the divorce and never revisit it, even as your 5-year-old becomes 15, for example. Children’s needs change over time – a young child might need short frequent contacts, whereas a teenager might prefer fewer exchanges and more say in schedule. Avoid: Be open to adjusting arrangements and communication as your child ages. Don’t rigidly stick to a method that no longer fits. For instance, maybe you initially shielded a 6-year-old from details of the divorce – which was appropriate – but by 12 or 13, they might need a more sophisticated understanding and more involvement in plans. Or if your custody schedule doesn’t work well for a teenager’s extracurricular schedule, be willing to adapt. Parents who fail to adjust can create frustration and emotional distance with their older kids
Being aware of these common pitfalls can help you navigate around them. Remember, nobody is a perfect parent, especially under the stress of divorce. You might catch yourself making one of these mistakes – if so, don’t panic. You can often repair the situation with a sincere conversation or by changing course. For example, if you realize you badmouthed the other parent in front of your child, you can later say, “I’m sorry I said those things about Mom. I was upset, but it wasn’t right. Your mom loves you and I respect that.” This models taking responsibility and helps undo potential harm. The fact that you’re educating yourself (by reading guides like this) is a great sign that you’re trying your best. Keep these reminders handy, and when in doubt, always circle back to: What is best for my child? If you use that as your compass, you’ll avoid most of these mistakes.
Providing Reassurance and Stability for Your Child Post-Divorce After the initial conversations and legal processes, the divorce will eventually be finalized – but your role in nurturing your child through the aftermath is ongoing. This final section focuses on how to foster a stable, supportive environment in the weeks, months, and years after the divorce. The goal is to help your child not just get through the divorce, but to continue to grow and thrive in their “new normal.” Research consistently shows that children cope well post-divorce when they feel stable, loved, and free from parental conflict.
Here’s how you can provide that:
Maintain Consistency and Routine: We’ve touched on this, but it’s worth emphasizing as a long-term strategy. Try to keep your child’s world as predictable as possible. This means regular schedules for meals, homework, extracurriculars, and bedtimes. If they go back and forth between homes, the schedule for that should also become a routine they can anticipate (e.g., they know every Sunday night they go to Mom’s, every Wednesday evening they go to Dad’s, etc.). Consistency is comforting – it tells the child life goes on and they can count on certain things Keep Both Parents Involved (if safe to do so): As long as both parents are loving and there are no safety concerns like abuse, it’s generally best for children to have continued, frequent contact with both parents after divorce Create a “two-home” environment where the child feels at home in both places: If your child will be living in two households, collaborate with your ex to make this as smooth as possible. Each home should have the child’s essentials (clothes, toiletries, a sleeping space) so they don’t feel like a visitor. Allow them to keep personal items in both places. Younger kids might appreciate duplicate comfort items (like a favorite stuffed animal) or a photo of the other parent to have when apart. Older kids might need two sets of textbooks or device chargers to avoid feeling like they’re always packing a suitcase. The idea is to have your child feel that both houses are their home, not that one is home and one is a temporary spot. If possible, maintain some similar rules so they don’t have to “recalibrate” behavior drastically when switching houses. Consistency in expectations (like homework time or curfew) in both homes reduces stress Ensure your child knows they are safe and loved, unconditionally: In the wake of divorce, children often need extra verbal and physical reassurance. Continue to tell them you love them frequently. Spend one-on-one time with them doing enjoyable activities. Keep communication open: ask about their day, their friends, their feelings. Make sure they know they can reach the other parent, too, when with you (and vice versa). Reinforce the message, “We are still a family, just in two houses. You will always have both Mom and Dad for you.” Some parents even create a visual for younger kids – like a heart drawing with the child in the middle and Mom and Dad on either side, to show that love surrounds them even if parents are apart. The American Academy of Pediatrics advises providing repeated reassurances that the divorce is not their fault and that you both love them Encourage the expression of feelings, and validate them: Check in with your child periodically about how they’re handling the changes. Create an atmosphere where all feelings are okay. One way is to have a regular chat during a calm moment, like at bedtime or during a casual walk, just to ask how they’re doing with the two-home arrangement, or if anything is worrying them. If they express sadness or anger, empathize: “I know you miss having both of us together. I do too sometimes. It’s okay to feel that way.” Let them vent if needed. If they say, “I hate going back and forth,” don’t get defensive; say, “I understand it’s hard. I wish I could make it so you didn’t have to. Let’s think if there’s anything that would make it easier for you.” Maybe they’ll say they want to keep a particular item with them or call the other parent every night – small tweaks can help. By acknowledging their feelings, you show that you take them seriously. It’s also important to monitor for signs of serious distress: prolonged depression, extreme anger, or acting out that doesn’t subside could mean they’re not coping well. If so, consider outside help. Therapy or support groups (many communities have “Banana Splits” or similar programs for kids of divorce) can be very beneficial. Psychologists note that children often adjust well within about two years post-divorce Nurture your child’s relationships and activities: Continuity in relationships is part of stability. If possible, maintain your child’s connection with friends, cousins, neighbors, or mentors they had before the divorce. Don’t pull them out of soccer or dance unless absolutely necessary – those activities can be anchors of normalcy. Encourage them to continue pursuing their interests. It helps distract from stress and build confidence. Celebrate their accomplishments as you always would – both parents should congratulate them on good grades, attend performances, etc. Show that despite the family change, you’re still fully invested in their life. Additionally, if the child has siblings, try to keep siblings together during visitations as much as possible (courts usually do, but in case of step-siblings or half-siblings, prioritize letting them see each other). Sibling support can be a big comfort as they go through this together. Foster a cooperative co-parenting partnership: Stable environment means parents working as a team (even if no longer married). Present a united front on key issues. For example, if one parent punishes a serious misbehavior, the other should enforce it too, not undermine it. Communicate about school schedules, health checkups, changes in the child’s behavior, etc. There are co-parenting apps that help share info without too much direct contact if that’s easier. The child should ideally never be the conduit for information – that’s the parents’ job. When kids see that “My parents may be divorced, but they still work together for me,” it gives them confidence that the foundation of their upbringing is secure. As one resource notes, by showing respect and cooperation with your co-parent, you teach your kids valuable lessons in resilience and teamwork Be reliable and keep promises: If you say you’ll call at 7pm, call at 7pm. If you promise a weekend outing, try your best to follow through. Reliability from both parents builds trust. Divorce can make a child feel like some promises (like “forever”) were broken, so it’s extra important now to show them that you keep your word. If an unavoidable change happens (you get sick and can’t take them out, or a work emergency changes a pick-up time), apologize and reassure, and make an alternate plan. Avoid any behavior that would make them feel they matter less – for instance, chronically showing up late or frequently cancelling their time with you for other commitments can be very hurtful. Prioritize your time with them to the extent possible. Reiterate that the family’s future can be positive: Kids often need help seeing a hopeful future. Talk about the concept of a “new normal” and even new opportunities. This isn’t to minimize their loss, but to help them look forward. Perhaps both parents being happier apart means calmer households. Maybe they get the benefit of two birthday celebrations or new traditions in each home. Let them know that your goal is for everyone to eventually feel better and that things like happiness and laughter will return to family life. You might say, “Right now it’s a big adjustment, but I believe our family will be happier in the long run. Both Mom and I will be able to be better parents when we’re not fighting all the time.” Emphasize that you’ll always be a family, just in a different form. Some parents use the term “family” deliberately – e.g., “We are still a family, and we will always be, even though Mom and I aren’t married. We’re a two-house family.” Knowing that the family identity isn’t erased, just altered, can comfort kids. Take advantage of resources: Don’t hesitate to use books, articles, or counselors as needed. There are excellent books for children about divorce (tailored by age) that you can read with them to normalize what they’re feeling. Parenting classes for divorce (often mandated by courts) offer great tips on co-parenting and supporting kids – take them seriously and implement what you learn. If finances allow, therapy (for the child, or family therapy including both parents in some sessions) can accelerate healing. Also, sometimes extended family can help provide stability – a grandparent or aunt who’s a steady presence can be a rock for a child. Just ensure extended family also know not to badmouth either parent and are on the same supportive page.
Above all, time, love, and patience are the ingredients that heal. As months go by with a steady routine, most children come to accept the new arrangements. They may always wish you hadn’t divorced – that’s normal – but that doesn’t preclude them from having a happy childhood and a close relationship with both parents. Studies have found that after an adjustment period, the majority of children of divorce are doing just as well as their peers in intact families. The chaos of the early phase settles, especially if parents minimize conflict and nurture the child’s needs. You can help your child emerge from this challenge with confidence in their own resilience.
Conclusion Talking to your children about divorce is undoubtedly hard, but it is also an opportunity to set the tone for your family’s new chapter. By approaching the conversation with clarity, compassion, and honesty, you give your kids the best chance to process the news in a healthy way. Remember to tailor your explanations to their age, reaffirm your love and their security at every turn, and avoid placing adult burdens on their shoulders. Draw from both psychological wisdom and legal guidance: keep conflict away from the kids, create a stable co-parenting plan, and always put their well-being first.
While divorce marks the end of one part of your family story, it’s not the end of your family. You and your children are still connected by unbreakable bonds, and with time and effort, you will find a “new normal” that feels safe and even happy again. Many families discover that after the initial turmoil, life actually improves – conflict is reduced, and everyone can focus on positive growth. Your children can grow up secure, loved, and well-adjusted despite the divorce – countless children do. What they need most is what you’ve striven to provide by reading this guide: your understanding, your support, and your unwavering love. With those in place, your family can navigate this transition and come out the other side with strength and resilience. As a seasoned expert might say, divorce is certainly painful, but it does not have to define your child’s life or future. By communicating with care and parenting with intention, you are helping your children write the rest of their childhood story in a way that is filled with hope, stability, and the knowledge that they are deeply loved – now and always.
Sources:
American Psychological Association – Helping children and parents cope with divorce, which notes that most children are resilient and suffer no long-term negative effects when divorce is handled well American Academy of Pediatrics – HealthyChildren.org: How to Talk to Your Children about Divorce, emphasizing age-tailored discussions, reassurance (not their fault), and maintaining routines for young kids Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies – Fact Sheet: Helping Children Cope With Divorce, which provides developmental guidelines (e.g., what to explain to preschoolers vs. adolescents) and stresses minimizing conflict, keeping consistent routines, and being neutral about the other parent Fontes Law Group (California Family Lawyers) – How to Talk to Kids About Divorce When You Don’t Want to Lie, offering practical tips like delivering a unified message, answering tough questions honestly (e.g., “Why are you divorcing?”) without blaming, and explaining custody in kid-friendly terms The Marks Law Firm – 8 Mistakes Divorcing Parents Make and How to Avoid Them, a family law attorney’s perspective on common pitfalls (like involving kids in conflict, badmouthing, inconsistency, and ignoring kids’ feelings) and how to prevent them Clinical Psychology Associates of North Central Florida – Healthy Divorce: How to Make Your Split as Smooth as Possible, highlighting the importance of conflict reduction, mediation, and cooperative co-parenting for the sake of children’s adjustment Additional references from pediatric clinical reports and child development experts on supporting children through divorce, affirming that with love, structure, and supportive communication, children can thrive after divorce
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